Quakers In London

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  • Truth and Repair – our Quaker journey towards justice (Conference)

    October 23 @ 10:00 am – 5:30 pm

    BYM Trusteesโ€™ Reparation Working Group invite Friends to join a day of learning, reflection and discernment as we share the journey from the Minutes of Yearly Meeting 2022 through to the findings of the Historical and Theological Workstreams and explore what these may mean for the future.

    This conference will offer space not only to confront discomforting histories, but also to consider how truth-telling, accountability, and spiritual discernment can help shape more hopeful and faithful futures.

    The conference will include:

    • Presentations from the Historical and Theological Workstreams
    • Opportunities for worship and spiritual reflection
    • Space for questions and discernment
    • Contributions from invited speakers and researchers
    • Hybrid participation for both in-person and online attendees
    • A light lunch will be provided on the day

    A full programme will be shared ahead of the event. Sign ups for the event close 9 October 2026.ย 

    More information about the reparations working group and the conference are available on the Quakers in Britain event page: https://www.quaker.org.uk/events/truth-and-repair-our-quaker-journey-towards-justice.

    Details

    Friends House

    173-177 Euston Rd
    London, NW1 2BJ
  • Getting to know: Paul

    Getting to know: Paul

    Name: Paul Keenleyside

    Role: Co-Clerk of Joint London Area Meeting

    Local Meeting: Iโ€™ve been attending Quaker Meeting at Streatham & Brixton in South London since 2005.

    Can you tell us a bit about your Quaker journey? Like many, the journey to being a Friend was indirect and at times bumpy, but I was drawn consistently by the Quaker sense of each of our lives being a Testimony and the meaning that this then gives to each of our interactions with others and the world around us. This sense of meaning finding has been an important part of my wider life working in special schools and now helping support school leaders.

    What excites you about the QiL project? I feel that there is a huge potential in Quakers in London; developing connectivity and sense of purpose for us across this wonderful city and providing a new way to โ€˜talkโ€™ to other city-wide organisations (both faith-based and non faith-based). I also know that this journey is likely to be indirect and bumpy, but that may be the point!

    To get to know our community better, we are publishing a series of posts introducing Quakers in London including (but by no means limited to) staff members and role holders! If there is someone you would like to learn more about, or you would be interested in introducing yourself, please email us at quill@quakersinlondon.org.

  • Getting to know: Gerry

    Getting to know: Gerry

    Name: Gerry Millar

    Role: Member of Arrangements Committee for JLAM (not to mention other roles within Local and Area Meeting!)

    Local Meeting: Westminster, currently within London West AM. Iโ€™ve been attending for 28 years, and love our community. I find it very exciting how many new younger Friends are becoming part of that community, and choosing to apply for membership

    Aside from Quakers, how do you like to spend your time? I share an allotment with a friend, which gives me space and time outside, and also the chance to grow nice produce when things go well. My friend loves tomatoes, so we always have a glut of a wide variety of shapes, sizes and colours in summer. Our plot is dominated by a huge old oak tree, covered in ivy, so we do our bit for biodiversity without even trying. I also love reading, and re-discovered local libraries for borrowing almost any novel and a variety of other works.

    What parts of your service are you looking forward to? Iโ€™m looking forward to a time when we have got to grips with the role and everything that it entails. We are still grappling with what shape the Area Meetings should have and how to balance all the elements which make a successful Area Meeting thrive. Of course, thatโ€™s not all down to us, but we do need to do more to make the meetings feel like enticing and attractive events, for example to encourage parents to bring their children, and for everyone to want to take part as we grow.

    What is something you would like people to know about you or your role? I wish we understood more about it! Itโ€™s quite hard to tease out what responsibilities belong to us, which to the clerks of QiL/JLAM, and which to the meeting as a whole.

    Whatโ€™s your favourite quote from QF&P? 26.70. “Give over thine own willing, give over thine own running, give over thine own desiring to know or be anything and sink down to the seed which God sows in the heart, and let that grow in thee and be in thee and breathe in thee and act in thee; and thou shalt find by sweet experience that the Lord knows that and loves and owns that, and will lead it to the inheritance of Life, which is its portion.”

    Isaac Penington, 1661

    I like it because it challenges me to turn my life over to God, though I find that very very difficult. But I also like it as a centring down practice, reminding me to โ€œgive over [my] own desiring to know or be anything, and sink down to the seed which God sows in the heartโ€. I sometimes say it over to myself at the beginning of meeting for worship, to help me settle.

    Bonus: Gerry’s Book Recomendations! I love detective stories, currently a fan of Simon Mason who has also written such books for young adults as well as the adult market. I recently read a couple of Willa Cather novels for the first time, and a memoir by an exiled Palestinian queer writer called Tareq Baconi. Oh, and the poetry, novel and memoir by another queer writer, Seรกn Hewitt, whose work I fell in love with.

    To get to know our community better, we are publishing a series of posts introducing Quakers in London including (but by no means limited to) staff members and role holders! If there is someone you would like to learn more about, or you would be interested in introducing yourself, please email us at quill@quakersinlondon.org.

  • Getting to know: Christine

    Getting to know: Christine

    Name: Christine Downes-Grainger

    Neither of these last names is the patriarchal name I was registered with at birth. My husband was born as Downes and then adopted by his aunt who had married a Mr Grainger. In some ways I helped him understand his identity. He asked, as he developed contact with his birth parents, if we could change our family’s name to D-G. He felt he was a hybrid of two families.

    Role: NE Thames representative to the London Development Group (and NET AM clerk)

    Now a member of the QiL Arrangements Committee

    Local Meeting: Epping, which I first went to in 2010. I joined the Society at Middlesbrough Meeting (NE England) in the mid 70s. There were six years in the 2000s when I took no interest in Quaker matters as my husband had worked his way out of unwitting dependence on tranquillisers, antidepressants, sleeping pills and painkillers, plus numerous other prescriptions to offset the side effects of the first drugs.

    Aside from Quakers, how do you like to spend your time? I was accepted as a member early on, in spite of having very little time and energy to contribute to the meeting, and no money to support it. I applied partly because the identity of being a Quaker seemed very important to me, and because I felt the need for a supportive network. I knew that were I to be left on my own, I could go to a Quaker meeting in any town and be welcomed. This situation happened in 2009. I am glad of the many opportunities for learning and service that my local and area meeting has offered me. I enjoy a weekly U3a singing group and walks in nature.

    What aspects of your service are you most looking forward to? Other people finding they can support our structures in large and small helpful ways. I firmly believe we can achieve more harmonious outcomes if we work together. This takes time as we understand where we have made assumptions and are excluding certain people or favouring certain viewpoints. I want to enable the spirit of Quaker meetings to thrive among or alongside the regulations of the 21st Century.

    What’s your favourite quote from QF&P?

    Seek to know one another in the things which are eternal.

    In the 1970s version of A & Q (blue cover) this was the opening sentence of the second paragraph. It disappeared from the green trial of Questions and Counsel and I did not see it in the red version that was issued. I wrote to my LM clerk in dismay. He pointed out it had been retained but had been merged into Number 18. As a young mother when I first attended, the statement told me that I had found an organisation that accepted all the ages and stages of life and what we did not know about anything beyond it. That was anchoring.

    To get to know our community better, we are publishing a series of posts introducing Quakers in London including (but by no means limited to) staff members and role holders! If there is someone you would like to learn more about, or you would be interested in introducing yourself, please email us at quill@quakersinlondon.org.

  • Getting to Know: George

    Getting to Know: George

    Name: George Barrow

    Role: currently assistant clerk of London Quaker Property Trust and nominated as a trustee of QiL on its creation as a charity

    Local Meeting: Having worshipped at Hampstead for about 15 years, Iโ€™ve recently moved my membership to Stoke Newington, which is considerably closer to home. Originally I was a member of a meeting in Birmingham, where I grew up.

    What parts of your service are you looking forward to? Before retirement I was very successful in keeping below the radar in Quaker terms but Iโ€™ve enjoyed the last four years as an LQPT trustee – particularly working on the development of the Better Homes strategy. The creation of QiL seems like a logical extension of this work. I believe it is something that will present us with possibilities and opportunities, with the dividend of releasing and redirecting our energy as Quakers into more rewarding work and witness.

    What is something you would like people to know about you or your role? I know that LQPT has from time to time been viewed with a bit of suspicion but Iโ€™ve found that the trustee group has brought together some really committed, caring people who want to support meetings (with or without Meeting Houses) and see them flourish, while shouldering the real responsibilities that running a charity brings

    Whatโ€™s your favourite quote from QF&P?The extract from QF&P I most commonly use is Isaac Penningtonโ€™s โ€œhelping one another up with a gentle handโ€. The message is not just about helping, itโ€™s how โ€œone anotherโ€ recognises that any of us might be the helper or the helped, depending on where and when, and what we have to offer.

    To get to know our community better, we are publishing a series of posts introducing Quakers in London including (but by no means limited to) “trustees in waiting” and role holders! If there is someone you would like to learn more about, or you would be interested in introducing yourself, please email us at quill@quakersinlondon.org.

  • Getting to know: Mary

    Getting to know: Mary

    Name: Mary Stiasny

    Role: I am a relatively new member of the London Development Group, having been asked to join it fairly recently. I have also just been appointed to be a Trustee of the new QiL.

    Local Meeting: I am a Member of South East London Area Meeting; I attend Forest Hill Meeting – and have done so for a very long time!

    What parts of your service are you looking forward to? I see this as the service I can give to London Quakers, having had so much given to me as a lifelong Quaker. My Quakerism is at the centre of my being. I hope we can together build a vibrant Quaker community across London which is outward looking and appeals to non-Quakers – not just to ourselves! It is time for us to grow as a community and as a religious group.

    What are you getting up to outside of Quakers? Outside the Society I am retired from working in universities, yet still very involved with higher education in various ways, and I like to spend lots of time with my husband, children and grandchildren.

    Whatโ€™s your favourite quote from QF&P? My favourite piece from QF&P is Advice 17, and I especially love that last sentence; โ€˜think it possible that you may be mistakenโ€™, because it reminds us that we need to be open to the meanings others bring; that we are not ourselves infallible.

    โ€œDo you respect that of God in everyone though it may be expressed in unfamiliar ways or be difficult to discern? Each of us has a particular experience of God and each must find the way to be true to it. When words are strange or disturbing to you, try to sense where they come from and what has nourished the lives of others. Listen patiently and seek the truth which other peopleโ€™s opinions may contain for you. Avoid hurtful criticism and provocative language. Do not allow the strength of your convictions to betray you into making statements or allegations that are unfair or untrue. Think it possible that you may be mistaken.โ€

    To get to know our community better, we are publishing a series of posts introducing Quakers in London including (but by no means limited to) “trustees in waiting” and role holders! If there is someone you would like to learn more about, or you would be interested in introducing yourself, please email us at quill@quakersinlondon.org.

  • Online Worship In North Wales

    Online Worship In North Wales

    Could London Have an Online Quaker Meeting? Lessons from Around the World

    When North Wales Quakers recently set up a fully online Local Meeting, it raised an intriguing possibility. If a Quaker meeting can exist entirely online in North Wales, could the same idea work in London?

    At first glance it might seem unnecessary. London already has many meetings. But what opportunities could something like that unlock? Ressearch into digital worship suggests that there’s lot’s to be excited about when exploring new ways to grow and support our faith.

    What other traditions have discovered

    Across faith communities, a clear pattern has emerged. VR Church – a congregation that meets entirely in virtual reality – draws people with disabilities, social anxiety, and participants from dozens of countries. Many report that the anonymity of avatars makes spiritual conversation easier, not harder. Jewish communities experimenting with online minyanim during the pandemic found that participants joined from across different countries, creating global prayer communities that would never have existed in a physical synagogue. Buddhist groups like Triratna have run online meditation and study groups for years, finding that digital spaces help people build strong practice habits even when they live far from centres.

    There’s a common thread through these examples: online worship tends to reach people who struggle to access physical congregations – those with disabilities, carers, people in remote locations, and those exploring faith cautiously or privately.

    But it also has real limits. Informal conversation, spontaneous pastoral care, and the emotional texture of physical presence are harder to replicate online.

    Why Quakers may be unusually well suited to digital worship

    Among religious traditions, Quaker worship may be particularly compatible with online space. Meeting for Worship relies on shared silence, reflection, and attentiveness to the Spirit – minimal ritual, no performance. During the pandemic, many Friends discovered these elements translated surprisingly well to Zoom. Quakerism is an “experimental,” religion, and there are suprising ways to find the spirit of God in the every day.

    Online Quaker worship may not feel like a diluted version of the real thing. It may simply be a different way of gathering in the same silence.

    A quiet opportunity for London

    In a city as large and fast-moving as London, geography is a real barrier. A meeting that requires an hour of travel each way is simply inaccessible to many people: frequent travellers, those on the edges of the city, people with caring responsibilities, or seekers who want a low-threshold way to explore Quakerism.

    The North Wales experiment invites London Friends to ask if we could we do something similar. Not as a replacement for our meeting houses, but as an additional doorway into our shared, simple testimony.

    If this idea interests you, or if you’d like to explore what starting an online Local Meeting in London might involve, then challenge yourself to live adventurously. What could you create?